Has anyone out there ever prayed that your husband or wife would know instantly the moment he or she saw you that they would want to spend the rest of their natural life as your spouse. That there would be no doubt from day one. That they would see you and fall in love with you; not because they thought you were extremely attractive, not because you said yummy or because you smell good, and not because their horoscope said they would meet the woman or man of their dreams, but because God said to them, “There she/he is. She/he’s yours.” Have you ever prayed that? Well, I have. I prayed that my future husband would see me and just know that I am the one. But you know what, I was thinking about this prayer today, and I’m not sure it’s one I want to be praying.
For instance, for any guys out there, if God told you, “she is the one.” What would you do? If you had no doubt that there was no woman in the world who would make you happier to be with than the one sitting 5 seats ahead of you and 2 to the left, how would you approach her? “Will you marry me?” might not get the desired response. And what if you’re the woman who’s just been asked this by a total stranger? Unless you’ve been praying the prayer I mentioned earlier, and probably even in you ARE praying that prayer, your response will be something to the effect of awkward silence and NO.
You know what got me thinking about this? I was sitting in church today and a man came and sat just diagonally in front of me. He’s kinda pale, really skinny, has thick glasses and a bowlish haircut. He doesn’t look mean but he’s really quiet. His name is Brian… I only know because he was wearing one of those sticker name tags. He’s probably a decent number of years older than me, and not really my “type” as some would say. But what if God told him that I could be his? What if God revealed to Brian that I was the person he would want to spend the rest of his life with? What if Brian came to me any day this week and asked me to marry him? What if I said no? I would have asked God and I would have received. Perhaps it wouldn’t be what I expected, but God would have delivered exactly what I asked him to. I would be so consumed by appearances and stereotypes that I would probably just deny him, and for someone as shy as he appears, I probably wouldn’t end up in a conversation with him again. Therefore, by God answering my prayer, I could in effect, ruin the chance for an amazing, fulfilling relationship with the one who was to be my future spouse. That would really just suck!
So, for anyone who’s prayed that prayer before, I would encourage you to not, unless you are prepared to deal with the effects of it being answered. And if you would be so kind as to offer a love-sick girl biblical advice on any matter dealing with dating/courting/marriage/whatever, I would be very thankful to accept it.
Anon
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Also, I’m sorry for the grammatical errors. It is fairly late and I didn’t want to use he/she, his/hers or him/her a lot.
